“Is there anyway I can help?”
“No, I’m fine. I’ve got it under control.”
How many times have you told someone everything is fine when you are really at your wit’s end? As caregivers, we often have issues asking for and accepting help. We feel it’s our responsibility to do everything. We feel guilty for asking for help, even when we desperately need it. Some of us even think asking for help is a personal failure.
It’s not. Everyone needs help now and again, and caregivers can use all the help they can get.
Help can come from anywhere, and you will be surprised at how many resources you actually have available. You have access to family, friends, your community and professionals like those at Affinity Hospice Care.
If you need help, just ask, and do it before you are worn down and at your wit’s end. Remember, reaching out for help is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s a sign of personal strength!
That said, people often have trouble asking for help.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind when asking for help.
Keep the person’s skills and interests in mind when asking for help. If you have a friend that loves to cook, ask them to help out with a meal one night a week. If they love to shop, ask if they wouldn’t mind picking up a few things at the store the next time they make a trip. You’re much more likely to get help from someone if the task is something they already enjoy.
Don’t ask the same person for help too often. People are willing to help to a point. Recognize their limits and don’t call on them too often.
Timing is everything. Make sure the person you will ask for help is available and capable. If they are stressed out from work, it’s not a good time to ask.
Have a list of tasks friends or family can help out with prepared beforehand. You can probably reel of a laundry list of things you need done. Go ahead and do it. Have it prepared when you approach someone and give them options.
Be okay with people saying,”No.” Sometimes people are unable or unwilling to help. You have to accept that. Don’t allow yourself to become upset when someone responds to a request with,” I just don’t have time.” They might not have time. It’s okay. Move on to the next one.
See, asking for help isn’t that hard, especially when you have people like the professionals at Affinity Hospice Care to call on. We’re here to help and make your life easier. Just tell us how we can help you best.